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The Letter · Vol. 2027

Letters from beyond
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My writing: essays from beyond the lanes. Stories, lessons, and the mental game work that builds champions on the lanes and in life. A new letter when the next one's ready.

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Letter No. 279 · August 31, 2026

Rest Is Part of the Plan, Not the Reward

For most of my career, I did not rest. Not really. I trained, I competed, I traveled, I came home, and I did it again. Rest was something that happened to other people — or something you earned — and I was never quite convinced I had earned it. Here is what I know now that I did not know then: rest is not the prize at the end of the work. Rest is part of the work.

Attitude· 4 min read · By Diandra Asbaty
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Attitude No. 279

Rest Is Part of the Plan, Not the Reward

Aug 31·4 min
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Attitude No. 278

The Lessons That Don’t Hit Until You Stop Moving

Aug 24·4 min
Letter No. 278 · Aug 24, 2026

The Lessons That Don’t Hit Until You Stop Moving

Performing on the big stage — presence, pressure, and the privilege of the moment. There’s a moment right before you bowl on the big stage. The ball feels heavier than it did in warm-up. The lights are hot. Really…

Attitude· 4 min read
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Attitude No. 277

What the Off-Season Is Really For

Aug 17·4 min
Letter No. 277 · Aug 17, 2026

What the Off-Season Is Really For

Performing on the big stage — presence, pressure, and the privilege of the moment. There’s a moment right before you bowl on the big stage. The ball feels heavier than it did in warm-up. The lights are hot. Really…

Attitude· 4 min read
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Follow Through No. 276

When the Tournament Ends, the Real Work Begins

Aug 10·3 min
Letter No. 276 · Aug 10, 2026

When the Tournament Ends, the Real Work Begins

Performing on the big stage — presence, pressure, and the privilege of the moment. There’s a moment right before you bowl on the big stage. The ball feels heavier than it did in warm-up. The lights are hot. Really…

Follow Through· 3 min read
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Personal No. 275

What I’ve Learned From Losing on the Biggest Stages

Jul 27·6 min
Letter No. 275 · Jul 27, 2026

What I’ve Learned From Losing on the Biggest Stages

Performing on the big stage — presence, pressure, and the privilege of the moment. There’s a moment right before you bowl on the big stage. The ball feels heavier than it did in warm-up. The lights are hot. Really…

Personal· 6 min read
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Attitude No. 274

Don’t Shrink. Don’t Inflate. Just Be.

Jul 20·4 min
Letter No. 274 · Jul 20, 2026

Don’t Shrink. Don’t Inflate. Just Be.

Performing on the big stage — presence, pressure, and the privilege of the moment. There’s a moment right before you bowl on the big stage. The ball feels heavier than it did in warm-up. The lights are hot. Really…

Attitude· 4 min read
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Focus No. 273

Hello, Junior Gold!

Jul 6·4 min
Letter No. 273 · Jul 6, 2026

Hello, Junior Gold!

The Tournament You Built All Year For Is Here. Now What? You walk into the building and it hits you. The banners. The lights. The hum of a thousand bowling balls rolling at once. This is the one. The tournament you…

Focus· 4 min read
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Inspiration No. 272

When Belief Hits Different: The Power of an Unwavering Witness

Jun 29·4 min
Letter No. 272 · Jun 29, 2026

When Belief Hits Different: The Power of an Unwavering Witness

There’s a moment after every shot when your eyes go looking for someone. You don’t always mean to do it. You throw the ball, the pins react, and before you’ve even registered the result, you’re scanning for a face.…

Inspiration· 4 min read
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Inspiration No. 271

Some Lessons Are Taught. The Best Ones Are Caught.

Jun 8·3 min
Letter No. 271 · Jun 8, 2026

Some Lessons Are Taught. The Best Ones Are Caught.

No one ever sat me down and explained it. I just watched. And somewhere along the way, I caught it. The lesson was never spoken out loud. It went something like this: There will be more hard days than perfect ones. But the perfect ones are built from the hard ones. And one day, every […]

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