Blind spots. You can’t see them. They’re a weakness you haven’t acknowledged.

So, how do you know what your blind spots are if you can’t see them? How do you find your blind spot weaknesses?

I think the number one way to uncover your blind spots is to have really good self-awareness.  Do the work internally.  Allow yourself to be honest with yourself.

Can you take an honest look at yourself and identify areas where you could be better?

I mean REALLY take an honest look at you and your abilities.

Most people only focus on improving where they are already strong because that feels comfortable. When you go to practice, what is your focus? Are you standing left, and hooking the lane because that’s what you’re best at? Or, are you trying to play up the 1-2 board because that feels realllly uncomfy? Champions spend more time on choice B. 

There’s a difference between not knowing your weaknesses and not seeking them out.

Make finding and facing your weaknesses your new goal.

Most people don’t want to do the work to find their blind spots…

Don’t be most people.

When you do the work and become more self-aware, you are actually discovering who you actually are and becoming stronger as a person. 

When you are afraid of facing your weaknesses, you are giving them power which takes away your overall strength. When you find and face your weaknesses, you gain your power back and empower yourself to overcome them.

There is no shame in recognizing your weaknesses. Everyone has something that they need to work on. I’m not talking about only things with your game and practice sessions, either. So many people aren’t honest with themselves in their entire life, and this affects so much more than their game. 

When other girls had issues with me in college, they really made my life difficult, not just on the lanes. Looking back on it now, I can see that their blind spot was their insecurities. 

At that time, they were just really insecure about who they were. They saw anyone who was secure in themselves as a threat, so they tried to bring those people, like me, down. They didn’t realize that was why they were doing what they were doing. They wouldn’t have behaved the way they did if they realized it was actually showing that they were insecure. 

Had they put in the effort, they could have realized that insecurity was their blind spot. They could have looked inside and recognized that they weren’t confident in who they were. That’s why they were unable to say to someone who had things they didn’t have, Good for you. I’m so glad that you have found your happiness.

They could have inquired within and asked, how is that person so secure in themselves? What can I do to build my own sense of security in who I am? They would have realized that instead of pulling someone else down, they could have just worked on building themself up.

They could have acknowledged to themselves, “I don’t really feel good in my own skin. That’s something I have to work on.”

That level of acknowledgment requires putting your ego aside. It’s the ego that usually gets in the way because you have to admit to yourself that you’re not perfect. And the ego sure doesn’t like that. You need to be okay with acknowledging your weaknesses to work on them. It will take time and steps to go from subconscious avoidance to conscious awareness of weaknesses – as well as to all the way to learning and growing from them.

When you ask those questions and make a conscious effort, all of a sudden, your blind spots become revealed. They’re no longer blind spots working against you. They’re weaknesses that have been recognized and acknowledged. That gives you the power to work on them. Your weaknesses don’t have subconscious control over you.

Can you take an honest look at your life and find the areas where you may have weaknesses?

It takes a certain strength to take a really honest look at your life and audit yourself. But you will also get even stronger after you accept and face your weaknesses. No matter your age, you’ll grow and mature as a person too.

Whatever weaknesses you may uncover and face, I hope you’ll have the courage to identify them, too, so that you can take the steps to overcome them. Positive change doesn’t just happen. It happens when you consciously do the work. When you do, it will empower you in your life, even when it is uncomfortable to admit them at first.

Being vulnerable – to ourselves as well as to others, is key.

It’s also okay to ask for help and seek tools.

Read and do the work to improve your self-awareness to drill down to who you are. Take the time to ask yourself the hard questions, really sit in your self-revelations and at the end of the day, be honest about who you are and what you need to do.